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Recently, in a class I was teaching on goal-setting, someone raised the topic of self-sabotage.

“Why do we do that to ourselves?” I asked the class.

“Habit,” came the immediate reply from a participant.

“We don’t mean to do it, we just do it,” said someone else.

They are so right! The question is, why on earth would we develop an uncontrollable habit of sabotaging ourselves? Don’t we want to accomplish our goals?

The answer may be this: We do and we don’t.

With self-sabotage, it’s as if there are two people inside us -- two different selves with two different sets of beliefs.

One self thinks we can achieve our goal. But the other self says something like, “Who do I think I am? It’s not