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Making Contact…

If we allow ourselves to sit and watch the world we will be witness to an ever-flowing movement. A hummingbird flies in for a closer look and then flies back out to safety; a wave from a large body of water comes in to make contact with the earth then retreats, and the Morning Glory flower that gently opens by day and closes by night. All of life is a product of this flow, and as we move in and out of relationships and experiences we also must find our way back to our center to retreat, to rejuvenate and get ready to move forward again.

At our very best we can move from this connection with the world and then withdraw from it easily and at our leisure. However, often our careers and family and other obligations pull us out of this natural rhythm into one that over time can, and will, end up having a negative impact on our lives. If we only move outward and don't take the time to retreat- anxiety, depression, fatigue, over indulging and pulling away from those who generally provide us with the love and support we need are often the outcome.

Each of us has to find a way to take the time to retreat and renew on an ongoing basis. Now

“Sincere Forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time.” ~Sara Paddison

I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. I have a client who has been struggling with a very challenging situation in her personal life, one in which she wishes she could be forgiven, but her friend is still too angry to even talk to her.

It is my belief that as human beings we have many opportunities to forgive people or situations as well as ourselves. And forgiving oneself is a simple act or attitude that can restore a sense of peace and balance in our lives even if we do not receive acknowledgment from an outside source that we have been forgiven.

Let me explain. If we can manage to come from a perspective that everyone is doing the best they can in every given